“Several couples
had Special Permission (SP) to attend a weekend
hockey tournament together. Prior to that event, there was an evangelistic
campaign led by a guy named Argue. We were allowed to go to it as a couple, but
I could wish I had never gone. It soured me on evangelistic campaigns ever
since. My wife says she can no longer enjoy the song, "Just as I am"
because they played all 37 verses of the song that night. The appeal he gave
urged, "If you have a neighbour who is not saved, come forward."
"If your paperboy is not saved, come forward." On and on it went.
Then to top it off, he reported in the newspaper that hundreds of people came
forward and were saved. What a liar.
“The kitchen
staff was aware they would all be late and held back some supper for their
return. I was the first in line in the kitchen to fill up my girlfriend’s and
my plate. The other guys were doing the same. So I came out of the kitchen and
sat with my girlfriend ready to eat. That's when the assistant dean came in and
saw me with my girl, which he figured was against the rules. As he called me
out and told me to sit at a different table, I tried to explain that we had
been at the hockey game and had an SP. Meanwhile all the other fellows stayed
in the kitchen watching to see what would happen since their fate was going to
be the same as mine. No reasoning with him was working, so I got up to go to
another table and as I passed by him, I gave him a shove and sent him across
another table. Well, that was the straw that led to my expulsion. I felt I was
living within the rules, but he created his own interpretation of them as he
went.
“I was expelled
in 1964-65 for pushing the Assistant Dean. Later reports of my punching him
were unfounded. But the clincher, which resulted in my expulsion, was not so
much for pushing him, but for lack of repentance for the deed.
“One room in the
dorm was designated as the prayer room; but instead of going to the Assistant
Dean to ask for forgiveness, I went to the prayer room. I felt that I had
offended God with my attitude and actions more than with my pushing him.
Apparently I failed in the cross examination by the President, Dean, and
Assistant Dean because I did not show the proper "signs of
repentance" (i.e., tears).
“The following
year I was allowed to return, but the attitude of Mr. Rose was 180 degrees the
other direction. I am so thankful to him and his wife for the kindness they
showed toward me.
“I found it
strange in 1964-65 that I could talk to any girl in the school except the one I
was dating. My roommate was dating as well and I talked with her a lot to
convey the messages he wanted me to give her. My roommate did the same for me.
“After I left, I
sent my girl a rose and her roommate took a picture of her with it which
"comforted" me in my expulsion.
“Today, I don't
feel bitter about the experience. It was a time of transition from the days of
the Pink-and-Blue-sidewalk mentality of Bible colleges.
“Other schools
had the same problems. A good friend of mine and I went to a Prairie Bible
Institute conference in the summer of 1963. His fiancée attended there. Doug
and I sat side-by-side in a nearly empty auditorium and his girl sat in the
seat in front of us. She and Doug carried on a long conversation with some very
endearing words. Though they were engaged, they couldn't talk directly to each
other.
“I had a friend
who, I think, was rushed into marriage in order to escape the strict dating
rules. Their marriage did not last very long ... about a year, I think. That
was another of the tragedies of those years. If he had been free to date her
properly, they might have discovered sooner that they were incompatible.”
I am not defending the actions of these friends. I am questioning the process,
which led to unfortunate results. No one received individual counsel. A person
failed, was tried, judged and sentenced in a very impersonal way. I wanted a
greater sensitivity from Christina leaders. But that was not the nature of the
times. Rules reigned. It was the 60’s and absolute authority was crumbling.
Those under authority wanted to know the why of rules. Government and
educational authorities had abused their power and were being challenged across
North America. I doubt we were completely aware of the full cultural situation.
I wasn’t. I was aware of the Biblical passages being taught about love, grace, and
compassion. Where was the example?
We were imperfect youth asking questions and generally trying to do the
right thing. It felt like we were being told to do as I say, not as I do. I for
one had questioned that thinking since I was thirteen. Tell me what God says about
living the Christ life in this imperfect world. How is that done? So my question was, what does God want
of struggling Bible college students? Was it really absolute blind obedience? Even
God did not ask that. The world was changing. How would we face this new world?
2 comments:
FROM AN EMAIL
I wanted you to know that I am finding your accounts of life at CBC fascinating. My first year was like heaven on earth - students and staff on the same page in their love for God and man.
The Dean of Women, Mrs. Bartel, was a gentle, kind woman. The year '64-65 must have been a heartbreak for her as she also had to deal with the legalism of the Dean of Students.
I had a roommate in my second year who attended because her parents requested it. She was devious and deceptive and managed to not get caught until sometime in Spring '65. Being caught after a weekend road trip with a trucker got her expelled and sent home.
I got my only deportment that year. Typing a term paper after hours (rules stated no noise after a certain hour) was my folly.
I was always so thankful that God gave me '63-64 first so that I knew Bible school didn't have to be like the next year was. The Roses were "sweet" when they came on '65-66 - praise God for His intervention, using them to be a soothing presence for those who returned.
Thank you for the way that you are handing this era of CBC history - you are doing a good job of a tough chapter in many people's lives.
While I mostly agree with your assessment of the dean of women, her played a significant role in some of the problems. Those stories are still coming.
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