Friday, October 5, 2012

THE CHURCH chapter 157


The church was an interesting and attractively well kept small church. There were probably about two hundred and fifty people in regular attendance. The building sat in a “T” formation right next to a hospital. There shared part of their parking lot. The church had very few parking spaces. The education wing was to the left and the sanctuary to the right. The pastor’s office was on the second floor at the top of the stairs.
I don’t think I had an office. I could be wrong but I usually just used an available classroom. I never had a relationship with the pastor. I was never in his office except for board meetings. We never met for anything, not even to get acquainted. He never asked to meet with me and he delayed every attempt I made to set up a time to meet. I just wanted to know his goals and dreams for the church. I assumed he had some. I thought they might even be written down somewhere. I think I was wrong. It was clear that lay people ran the various ministries of the church. Faith had served as their Christian education director but it was a big load for her as a full time elementary school teacher. As far as I could tell, the pastor preached. He may have done some visitation and met with some people, that’s what he said, but I didn’t see that he did much else. I honestly didn’t understand his role.
The church had some past difficulties with pastors and let one go that maybe they should not. This made them somewhat cautious in confronting him. Besides, he was a great storyteller and people seemed to enjoy his preaching. He was humorous. I did not find him inspiring and didn’t really pay that much attention, but I laughed with everyone else. I should have been more focused. I know Della never liked the man. The first time she met him he hugged her and she felt contaminated. She promised that she would never let him touch her again. He tried, but she managed to avoid him every time.
I was at the church so seldom and had to make every moment I was there count so I finally gave up trying to meet with him. I didn’t know what was going on, but the church was running smoothly and I wasn’t real sure why they needed me, but I was glad for the job. Della and I debated how involved we should be and whether to even let ourselves get too close to the people since we would only be there two years. The deeper the commitment the harder it would be to leave, and we were leaving. I had a future commitment. In the end we decided is would not be fair to the church or to ourselves if we held everyone at arms distance. We would only have a ministry is we jumped in with both feet. And that we did! That was a good decision. We established some of the deepest relationships of any place we ever lived.
I spent the first several weeks meeting with the heads of the various ministries attempting to get the pulse of the church. The worst problem I could see was that because of everyone’s busy schedules and commitment to their ministries they just weren’t talking to one another and that created some schedule and cross purpose problems. I set out to establish a Christian education committee to pull them together.
I spent a great deal of time with the Rouses and Stanwoods talking about the church. These two families in particular took us in and cared for us in ways we never expected. They invited Della and I to join them and some other couples in their supper club. We were taken to some of the most wonderful and unique restaurants in the area.
 Our first visit to Disneyland was with the Greater Los Angeles Christian Education Association. Faith had secured tickets for everyone at the church who wanted to go. Disneyland was rented for a party and as most first time visitors we were also in awe. 

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