Tuesday, February 12, 2013

ON TO LIFE chapter 232


David drove me back to Lincoln the next morning. I talked to him about my feelings and mom’s response and he did his best to comfort me. “That’s just mom.” “You know how she is.” “She doesn’t mean anything by it.” Etc.
Since I always lived the furthest away from home, I was often the one attempting to explain my mother to the others, especially David. As an adult, he had lived the closest to mom and dad and was the one who cared for them. If they needed anything repaired, he or one of his two boys were over that day to fix it. Yet mom never appreciated what they did and complained about how slow they were or neglectful they were to her needs. The only one she ever praised was our youngest brother. We all knew that he was the only one who continued to “need” her, even as an adult. He was also the one who took advantage of her. She would give him anything she had and often to her own loss.
I understood. Yes that’s the way it was. But it was another of lives loses that I was dealing with. I was very quiet on the drive to Colorado and I finally got talked into explaining my situation. Talking it out made coping easier.

It was beautiful the whole week in Colorado. I enjoyed every moment knowing this would be my last CBC event.
We preformed Adrift in a smaller auditorium probably more than once. We had our own space each night for our comedy routines. Packed the room out every night. The group would perform along paths leading to the auditorium and dining halls entertaining people as they waited. The Portrait Players were a smash hit. I was so very proud of all they did and who they were.
I slipped in to watch some quizzing and to see my friends from the South Pacific, the Rouses. I no longer knew any of their quizzers. I knew more quizzers from Canada, but even that was small. I had been on the sidelines for a few years and was out of circulation. There was a young man named Daryl Smithgall quizzing with the Pacific Northwest District. He knew I was on my way to their area. He told everyone that I was coming and built me up to a reputation I doubted I could ever achieve. He knew because his father was a member of the District Executive Committee (DEXCOM) and dad told him of my move.
From Colorado it was back to Regina and a round of farewells. I was becoming melancholy. I was excited about the move, but knew I was leaving things I would never again experience. My great Regina love for drama would likely come to an end. No more Portrait Players.
Back in Regina as we were all parting ways a Portrait Player made a comment I have never forgotten and never heard before. They wished they had not been a Portrait Player and regretted the whole experience. While surprised, I thanked them for sticking with me for the year and not walking out and wished them the best. If they intended to crush my spirit, they succeeded. It was a hard note on which to end my CBC career.
The next couple of weeks were spent packing and saying goodbye. United Van Lines came and packed our breakables and two days later loaded our things to take to Oregon. We had contacted immigration several times as our visa’s had not yet come though. We were coming down to the wire and really needed them. We finally decided we had to go and asked them to transfer the paper work to Vancouver for finalization. We had to leave.
We spend our last night with Bill and Anna Rose before going on to Red Deer to see Merla and Della’s family. From there we headed down through Sandpoint and the closer we got to the border the harder we prayed that there would not ask a question we could not answer honestly. I did not want them to ask, “How long do you expect to stay?” I could not say permanently as my family did not have visas. They never asked. We were through and on our way to Oregon.
We had no idea how much we would miss our Canadian friendships. Some would be maintained, but most would fade away. That is a normal life transition. I loved working with the Christian and missionary Alliance, but my connections were all in Canada and the countries were in the process of separating organizationally. I wouldn’t even have the once a year contact at general council. I was once again an American.

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