Wednesday, January 16, 2013

OUR COUPLE FRIENDS chapter 214


Many of the couples with whom deep friendships developed were initiated through Della’s work with Married student wives, or with couples from Westside Alliance Church. I never understood fully what Della’s role was in that ministry, but it was certainly deeper than the typical advisor. I believe that was the beginning of a life long ministry of encouragement in particular to younger women.
Della knew the struggles of being a wife to a ministerial workaholic. It meant being a support and encouragement to a husband who kept long hours and put others ahead of their own family at times. It meant feeling like a single mother rearing children. It meant being home when her husband was out working with and seeing the hand of God at work up close and personal. It often meant staying home with the children. It meant experiencing different blessings and the most important to Della, it meant never putting your husband down with parishioners a problem she had seen and hear to often.
I have little doubt that those qualities were part of her attraction as was her skill as to a gracious hostess. Della loved what God was doing through her, but she also made very little of it. It was just what she loved doing and not a responsibility.
We had important connections with Bob and Carol Rose. Of course Della knew Bob through his family back in the Red Deer days. We were also attending the same church. For a brief time Della had a part time job with Bill Russell at his graphic art studio. We had attended CBC as students together and now the same church. Della was his bookkeeper.
We loved Ken and Joann Badley. Both were brighter than I would ever be, and they stimulated our thinking. Ken taught an adult Sunday school class on CS Lewis that few people wanted to miss. He hooked Rodney into the Narnia series, a set we read together several times. I loved Ken’s ability to write creatively with which he challenged cultural issues. I well remember a short piece on the inflation of language where he laughed at the “new” naming of soda cups without changing anything but the names: Large became extra large, medium became large, and small became medium. Small no longer existed. I wonder what he would say about sizing these days. When I began buying pop in bottles they were 6 ounces.
We loved out connection with Doug and Ann Snowsell, Collin and Brandon. Our children were close in age and got along which allowed us longer periods to visit and laugh. Their life change was always an amazement to me. Doug had been in banking and left all of that to come to Bible College to begin an entirely new career. They were passionate and committed to Jesus Christ. We loved their dreams and what was clearly their already giftedness. Della and Ann went on to be with Jesus way too early, as did Della’s childhood friend Merla.
We always maintained our relationship with Rev. and Mrs. Rose. They were mentors. They were surrogate grandparents to our kids. Occasionally I would hear students complain about the rules and the dispensing of justice. I always wanted to push theses kids up against the wall and jam into their heads the dramatic changes that occurred as a result to these people becoming the deans of the college. But they were students. Students complain and always want fewer rules than there are. That did not change me thinking that they had no idea how lucky they were or how different life at the college was in only these few short years.
They were many more relationships we cherished and thank God for each one. Those with whom we associate influence us all.

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